Tuesday, January 29, 2013

What Not to Say to a Working Mom - The Huffington Post

Recently, Amy Shearn shared a list of things not to say to stay-at-home moms. She could have just cited anything Elizabeth Wurtzel has written in the past year, but that would have been too easy. Instead, Shearn came up with a list that was funny and clever and pointed in all the right ways. Which got me thinking about questions or comments I've heard about being a working mom. I don't think anyone sets out to be rude or judgmental, but I've been surprised at what well-meaning and generally thoughtful people say to mothers who aren't staying home full-time with their children. There's a subtle hostility or judgment that comes through in some of these statements that makes me wish that everyone would, every so often, think before they speak.  Read more...  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/devon-corneal/what-not-to-say-to-a-working-mom_b_2566952.html?utm_hp_ref=daily-brief?utm_source=DailyBrief&utm_campaign=012913&utm_medium=email&utm_content=BlogEntry&utm_term=Daily%20Brief

Monday, January 28, 2013

Attitude Is Everything

by Jim Rohn

The process of human change begins within us. We all have tremendous potential. We all desire good results from our efforts. Most of us are willing to work hard and to pay the price that success and happiness demand.

Each of us has the ability to put our unique human potential into action and to acquire a desired result. But the one thing that determines the level of our potential—that produces the intensity of our activity and predicts the quality of the result we receive—is our attitude.

Attitude determines how much of the future we are allowed to see. It decides the size of our dreams and influences our determination when we are faced with new challenges. No other person on earth has dominion over our attitude. People can affect our attitude by teaching us poor thinking habits or unintentionally misinforming us or providing us with negative sources of influence, but no one can control our attitude unless we voluntarily surrender that control.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

ArtHouse: The Flaneur in London series 4 by Sebastian Collier

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How to Communicate After a Fight – Six Easy Steps to Recover Relationship Harmony!

by John Gray

Wouldn't it be great if your love relationship could be a bed of roses all the time? Imagine being magically transported to a land of brilliant sunrises and sunsets where there were no misunderstandings or hurt feelings, no sideways glares, no slammed doors, and no arguing. As much as any couple may avoid fighting, the truth is, one minute you may feel great passion, and the next you're contemplating divorce!

Too many times we justify this shift in attitude by thinking that our partner's behavior needs an overhaul. Funny thing though, it's usually not about them! So what's next? How can couples open the communication again and put an argument behind them?

Read on as we take a look at the six steps to leaving a fight in the dust and getting back on the road to lasting romance.

Take the Edge Off - Get a Little Space The best way to stop an argument is to nip it in the bud. Men, in particular, need to cool off and think things through. Women need to make sure that they are not bringing a 'cold-front' to the negotiating table. This is a good time to reflect on how you usually approach your partner. Take a step back and think about how much you love this person. Also, focus on your own needs and take some self-healing time.

Ease Into It After Some Downtime Approach each other slowly and softly after some downtime. Wait until you can feel positively about your partner and the relationship, as it's impossible to work things out when negative emotions are still on the surface. If your anger, hurt or frustration is still overwhelming, take it as a sign that you are not ready to jump into solution making. It's too easy to blow things out of proportion unless you take a step back and ease in to the resolution slowly.

Nothing Too Serious After some time has passed, come back and talk again, but in a loving and respectful way. Fueling the argument is not your goal. Take it easy, and keep the conversation light, because even though some time has passed, you still may not be able to be objective right away. Simple gestures like a smile, holding hands or getting your partner to laugh at something silly and unrelated to the situation can be good icebreakers.

Women Need to Talk Women often need to completely talk the problem through before they are able to stand aside and put it behind them. Men can mistakenly feel blamed and attacked when a woman works through her problems by talking, so it's a good idea for her to reassure him. By letting him know how much he is supporting her by listening, she will free him from feeling unappreciated or attacked as she rehashes the details of the upset.

Men Need to Be Forgiven After a big blow-up, men simply need to be told that they are forgiven. The four magic words to support a man in getting over hurt or angry feelings are, "it's not your fault." A man hates to feel criticized, or that his partner disapproves of him. When a woman forgives her partner for his mistakes, she not only frees him to love again but also gives herself permission to forgive her own imperfections.

Both Parties Need to Take Personal Responsibility Couples can't point fingers after an argument and expect things to get better. Both men and women have to acknowledge

responsibility

communication. Men have to let go of being righteous, demanding and overly sensitive, while women have an opportunity to apply new and improved relationship skills to assure him that he is appreciated and that she does not blame him for the fight.

Learning to communicate with each other through stormy times is essential to the success of a long-lasting relationship. While the best advice we have for couples is to

ordinary life can get in the way of even the happiest Martian and

forgiveness really is key for both sides. None of us will ever find a mate who

however, we can be the best for the one who is most perfect for us.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Positive thinking a lifestyle choice

One of life's great annoyances is the tendency of folks to ask you to perform an impossible task, list the issues they foresee and the problems that plagued previous attempts -- and then admonish you to "think positive."

Wow! Does that mean you are so good that you can achieve what no one else has? Or are you being set up to fail?

Because I am an eternal optimist, I prefer to believe the first premise. Positive thinking is more than just a tagline. It changes the way we behave. And I firmly believe when I am positive, it not only makes me better, but it also makes those around me better.

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Sunday, January 20, 2013

Some tips on how to make good decisions

I have felt all my life that good judgment is a critically important skill for any person to have, but especially so for those in leadership positions. Good judgment is such an important attribute that it is often listed first by employers as a required quality of job applicants.

We can easily name examples of bad judgment: drug use, lax financial management, questionable choices of friends, and so on. And bad judgment usually leads to bad outcomes.

Read more: Some tips on how to make good decisions

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Let your creativity guide you

An elderly man was harassed every afternoon by a group of kids on their way home from school. They'd ring his doorbell and run, or taunt him while he was working in his garden, or throw things at his house. He shouted at them and thought about calling the police or talking to their parents, but then he had a better idea.

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Start Out With Good Game Plan | Latz Negotiation Institute

I recently asked one of the best negotiators I know – a lawyer for over 50 years – for his single most critical pearl of negotiating wisdom.

This lawyer, who happens to be my 82-year-old Dad, surprised me by saying it was something he only really focused on relatively recently. What was it? Keep a laser-like focus on your goals.

Reflecting on this, it occurred to me that this pearl is much easier said than done. In fact, almost all the strategies I teach are easier said than done. But they are crucial to increasing your likelihood of achieving better results.

So, as we start the New Year and make resolutions – almost all of which are easier said than done – here are my Top Three Negotiation Resolutions.

Read more: Start Out With Good Game Plan | Latz Negotiation Institute

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Unclaimed cash may be yours

There is about $1 billion for the taking in Arizona — and it has nothing to do with the next Powerball jackpot.

The money is part of pool of unclaimed property maintained by the Arizona Department of Revenue in the names of those who lost it.

Didn’t pick up a paycheck? Forgot about money left in a bank account? Owed money from a service contract? How about an uncollected security deposit?

Under state law, the money is collected and protected by the state until the rightful owners claim it.

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Following simple tips can help you succeed

Sometimes the columns that get the biggest reaction are those that offer the simplest advice. A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about street-smart ideas and was inundated with requests for more. A few readers shared their ideas, too. Because I truly believe in the importance of street smarts for success, I'm continuing the list.

There will always be a place in the world for anyone who says, "I'll take care of it," and then does it. Don't imply that a chore is beneath you or that you are too busy to handle the mundane. Sure, you can call in help from subordinates (if you have them), but in order to share the credit, you need to do some of the work.

Circle the wagons. For the past 50 years, every time I have wanted to persuade a person of power, I've found a couple of friends who have influence with the person to approach him or her from different directions to get the result I want. These are people who know I will come to their aid in return and who act professionally and discreetly on my behalf.

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